FONG MEE JOONG(1917 -2010)GONE,BUT NOT FORGOTTEN.

 On thurday, we were informed by  family members that my grand mother had passed on. we knew she was unwell lately, but never expected her to go so quickly. She is a wonderful lady and a good grandmother, the second wife of my late grandfather. one of my earliest memories of her was when my mother was delivering my youngest sister, she took me on  a trishaw from Kapar road, klang to the hospital, where the  present government clinic(opersite the prescot hotel) at Jalan Persiaran Sultan Ibrahim is located. I also remember as a kid, whenever my grand father were to scold us(my sliblings)she would console us and said something like", don't mind him, he is just like that, but he is a good man. " Never once had I seen her loose her temper.She was a very submissive wife to my grandpa even though there were many ocassion when he raised his voice at her.Such a wonderful woman was she.She had live to a ripe age of  94. She is survived by 4 sons, 6 grand sons, 3 grand daughters , 4 great grand sons,2 great grand daughters, 2 great great grand sons, and 1 great, great grand daughter. .
She is gone , but will not be forgotten. she will always be in our hearts. Goodbye grandma.

RAIN

 It rained for a while, awhile ago. However ,it did not makes any difference,because it was still warm after the rainfall. Anyway I was reminded of this song by Jose Feliciano.It is a beautiful song.

Have a listen.

song for a lazy sunday

 I have always listening to this great song.  it seems real to me now..  anyway enjoy this song.

I HAVE LOST YOU..
(words & music by Howard - Blaikly)
Lying by your side I watch you sleeping
And in your face the sweetness of a child
Murmuring the dreams you won't recapture
Though it will haunt the corners of your mind

I've Lost though you're near me
And your body's still this kind
I've lost you on a journey,
But I can't remember where or when

Who can tell when summer turns to autumn
And who can point the moment love grows cold
Softly without pain the joy is over
Though why it's gone we neither of us know

Oh, I've lost you yes, I've lost you
I can't reach you anymore
We ought to talk it over now
But reason can't stand in for feeling, oh

Six o'clock the baby will be crying
And you will stumble, sleeping to the door
In the chill and solemn gray of morning
We play the parts that we have learned too well

Oh I've lost you, oh, I've lost you
Oh, You won't admit it so
I've lost you on a journey,
But I can't remember where or when no more

Oh, I've lost you yes, I've lost you
I can't reach you anymore
We ought to talk it over now
But reason can't stand in for feeling, oh

Oh, I've lost you yes, I've lost you
I can't reach you anymore
We ought to talk it over now
But reason can't stand in for feeling, oh

Vigorous Exercise Bad for your Heart?

Saw this article on the net, and this part caught my attention"
Recent research coming out of New York University Medical Center suggests that the more often one engages in vigorous exercise the greater their risk of developing atrial fibrillation (AF). AF is a condition characterized by irregular, rapid heart rate, which affects people in many ways from simple fainting to heart failure and stroke."
see the whole article here.
Wonder if there is any truth in the article.Does  that means no more body combat.? what about hiking? Jogging.
Are they vigorous ?

 

no more this? 

or  this?

PATIENCE

Do you know patience is a virtue?  It's hard to find people with patience these days, especially the younger generation. They are always rushing  into things, and do not have the patient to wait for things, in queue. Why is patience a virtue? Wiki .answer.com  has this to say.
Patience is a virtue because it makes us better people. The definition of the word is to tolerate delay. This implies self control and forbearance as opposed to wanting what we want when we want it. How many times have we jumped the gun and found out it would have been better to tolerate delay or had self control? What did we miss out on? Did we hurt someone we love because of lack of patience? Having patience will heal the wounds and it will work itself out fine. Patience is not only a virtue but a necessity for a happy existence. refer to the link here.
Just the other day I sent a text to one  girl,and of course she did not understand what I meant, so she text me back and said something like this I don't understand la uncle ,can you just interpret properly. Now that is so  nice of her .She could have lost her patience and temper, but she did not. I guess that is one of her good point.I am not saying she is an Angel, as she has her weak point, but this is one of her stronger point and I like her for that. Nice going dee. keep it up girl.
As for me, I think I lack patience in certain areas. I know I don't have the patience when it comes to fishing. If the fishes does not bite, I will give up after while. That is why I never enjoy fishing.  Lately I reliase my patience have been wearing off for someone. After being made to wait and wait, I think  one's patience can be tested.  Maybe it's time to take stock.

coping with pressure

Every one I suppose have a bad day and their share of being pressured during their working life. How does one handle pressure?  If you handle it well it , you overcome another day, but that does not means you will escape from it totally. One of these days you will sure to fall under pressure or you will blow your top  depending which one comes first.

Just today my HR manager asked me have I started to handle booking of cargo  space for the company's  export shipment. I told her somebody else is handling it to which she asked why have I not handle it yet?  Hello  I just joined not too long ago and no body have shown me how it was to be done yet. It is not like I am not doing anything in the office. I have take care of so many things/jobs.  And besides I don't have my own work station yet.I am using the computer which is attached to the office scanner and  have been interupted  so frenquently and it is not easy to get work done in that kind of situation.Everything is urgent but I am no superman!
If you are not going to provide the necessary equipment to enable me to do my work efficiently , at least show some sympathy.

 I know there are plenty of stuff on the internet where the so call expert offers advice.
A lot of people tend to overlook the effect of stress on one's career. Though a little pressure can be good for improved performance, an overdose of it can make people lose their head and give in to immediate impulses that lack judgment.Read the rest of the article here.
Ask men.com seems to have the answer  here.    
I don't know who is right. You take your pick.
 Meanwhile I am just taking it easy, after all  my work is only for a three months period and  I prayed it will pass by quickly.  I am gonna take a break, go for a holiday for something. Now that is an inspiration.

Bon Voyage

She will leave tonight , to a neighbouring country for the water festival .The local call it songkran.
For more about this water festival which is also their new year see here.

I wished her safe journey and hope she will enjoyed her trip there. I will missed her though. Over the years she has grown to be good friend and I have grown fond of her. 
Have a good trip my little niece , 一路平安.  Remember to take lots of photos to share with us.

Can't Make It

Just got back from a funeral service. I had earlier decided not to attend,as I was senting someone back after the church service. A friend volunteer to pick me up from my home,so I agreed.  He was under the impression I knew how to get there and when he asked me if I know how to get there, I replied I thought you had the address. so we call up another friend from  when we reached  the housing estate where the deceased used to live and after going around for almost 20 minutes we finally found the place just in time when they were almost got ready to carry the casket to the hearst. we almost did not make it.!  Lately I was getting some messages "I can't make it" from someone dear. she might have a valid reason for saying so. But why  such coincident everytime I called she had some thing on. I know I had on many occasion cancel my previous appointment with friends just to be with her. why can't she do the same? Have you ever heard such words before or am I the only one? I have tried to dismiss such thoughts, but  this question still linger on my mind and I just could not help it when I was at my late friend's funeral. As I gazed at his still body in the casket, I wondered if one day  I was in the casket, will I still hear(not literally though)the words can't make it!

Guess that is another question without an answer.refer to my previous post here.

Question without an answer.

Office Politics

I am still unsettle at the new work place. Still no sign of my email address even though I had made the request on my first day  at the office. Yes I am still using someone else's desk and there is no telephone either.I observe there is too many restriction here, for instant every department have to keep their own paper to use for printing and photocoping. Even the photostating need an access code before one could use. How do they expect me to do my job if they can't even get the essential  needs of the employee?? The only good thing is Lunch is provided. by the company with exception of saturdays.
I thought I have seen  the last of the office politics when I retired from my previous job. Apparently there is no different here. The HR seems to be the most unpopular person as in most organisation. I wonder why. Everyday I could hear staff talking negatively about the HR , who happen to be a lady. The main complaint is that she is too bossy  and does not appreciate what the staff does. No wonder  everybody is leaving.  Anyway I am only here for  three months . I hope I can survive through out my contract.

BACK TO WORK (AGAIN)

After resting for more than two months, I started working again on april fool's day.
Guess I am a fool for rushing back to work huh? It's kinda funny, when I was resting I was wishing I would go back to work, but now's that I am working I wished I was resting at home instead! Now my alarm clock are set to ring every morning at 0.631 am.
My new work place is located at Teluk Panglima garang, a 25 minutes drive. when I applied for the job I was told I would be just assisting the shipping department ,but now I learnt it was something else. It appear people are leaving and it incumbent upon me to learnt up the job fast so as to take over the department as soon as possible. My first couple of days was real bored, as the juniors there dont seems to keen to part their knowledge to me. Here is an elderly man trying to learnt the rope in a new enviroment and I guess they feel threaten or something. one of the girl even said to me, "with your experience you should have no problem at all learning the job" somehow i sense some sarcasm there. Anyway today is the fourth day and I was bored to death.Time seems to come to a standstill when you have nothing to do.On the other hand when you are so busy,there don't seems to be enough time. I was called by the person in the HR department today and was question what I had learnt so far.so I spilled the beans so to speak. There after I was told to followed her to the shipping depart and she told the girl who was leaving to ensure I had on the job training with immediate effect. I can feel the pressure on me already. Oh dear what have I got myself into now. I only hope I can cope up.I was told the girl will be leaving in three weeks time, and that is how short a time I will have to catch up and boy do I have a lot to catch up. well wished me luck.By the way they have not even asign me a work station, I have to make do with which ever vacant place available , like when that staff was on leave. wonder if I have wait till that girl go before I get my permanent desk??

When do you stop loving someone?

I was once asked this question, why do you continue loving someone who has not shown any response at all? you mean my children? I have no problem with that after all they are my children and as a parent it is my job to love them regardless right? But I could see she was not refering to my children.Why do you do the things that you do,when you know nothing good will come out of it? So I said well I just can't help it . It is my nature to love her(as I have already guessed she was hinting at my god daughter) wheather she response or not. when I choose to love it was not with the hope of getting something in return or a response. If you do something for someone and hope to for something for return then I guess it is not a true love or agape love as the Bible puts it. When God choose to love us it was unconditional. He loves us inspite of our rebelious nature and knowingly some will reject his love, yet he choose to love.Since today is easter day,I thought I will reflect on God's love.
1 Corinthians 13 :4-7 talks about what love should be:-
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
To that person who might not understand it at all, and to be honest I too at times do wonder why do I do it. But one thing I am sure of I enjoyed every moments when I am with her and that is good enough for me. I guess in the same way God must be feeling the same when ever we spent time with Him.