What is it like to love someone who forgets you?

Dementia, is a terible  sickness, so sad if you can remember your loved one.


For Sazlina Yusof (name changed), one of the hardest decisions the family made was to sell their car to prevent her father from taking off without the family’s knowledge.

“He was very persistent about wanting to leave the house and we cannot allow him to do so,” said the 41-year-old, adding that he has fled the home on several occasions.

He’s lost his memory and cannot recall the family members. “He doesn’t remember any of us,” she adds sadly.

Dementia, which characterises a range of symptoms including a decline in memory and thinking skills, can negatively affect a person’s ability to perform their daily activities.

Few are diagnosed in the early stages, and many only seek treatment at a later stage.

With dementia, the challenges are monumental for the patient. However, caregivers themselves are faced with their own set of challenges, where emotional scars are often left unknown to others.

Apart from the physical and emotional toll on caregivers, families are also left to make tough decisions for their dementia-stricken loved ones, including taking their rights away to ensure their safety.

 “I kept my father confined and he gets very upset about it. He has also lost the perception that the house is his home and felt that he was held in a place against his wishes,” said Sazlina.

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Have you ever been so sick?

Yesterday was a day ,never like any other day. It was early in the morning after I went to the toilet and when I came back, laid my head on the pillow I felt the whole room  spining and I felt nausea after that. went to the toilet and threw out, then sat on the "throne" , which I thought will help. It works in the past whenever I had food poisoning. Of course at that moment I did not know it was food poisoning as I never had such experience before. I kept on vomitting , and could not sleep, and I dared not lie down as  it will cause my head to spin. Finally morning came, my contition did not improved. My wife gave me some medicine which she got from the clinic, but each time I took something including bread and drinks, I threw up. In the meantime my wife was so anxious to admit me to a hospital as she did not know what else  to do. She started to look for my medical card, only to find out the insurance guy did not renew it!(this is another issue which she will take up with that guy) Anyway my son came back around noon time and took me to a nearby clinic, though I could hardly walk. A jab from the docter who diagnose me and confirm it was food poisoning ,a bad case at that.  I am now gaining back my strenght and hope to be up and about again. Thank God for his Grace and sustaining power and also to my wonderful wife and son who took care of me when I was so helpless.