FLIGHT 2016

Got this on my whatsapp. Too nice to ignore

DEAR FRIENDS,

The Boarding on Flight 2016 has been announced......

Hope you have checked in only the best souvenirs from 2015 in your luggage.... 

The BAD and SAD moments if carried, must be thrown away in the garbage on arrival ....... 

The flight will be for 12 months long. 

So, loosen your seat belts, jingle and mingle.

 

The stop-overs will be :

✳Health, 

✳Love, 

✳Joy, 

✳Harmony, 

✳Well-being 

✳Peace.

 

Refueling will be at 

👍Giving

👍Sharing   

👍Caring.

 

The Captain (God) offers you the following menu which will be served during the flight.......

 

✅ Cocktail of Friendship, 

✅ Supreme of Health, 

✅ Grating of Prosperity, 

✅ Bowl of Excellent News 

✅ Salad of Success, 

✅ Cake of Happiness,

 

All accompanied by  bursts of laughter... 

But remember, you will enjoy these meals and the journey better if you talk, share, smile and laugh together. Sitting silent and sullen will make the flight seem longer. 

Wishing you and your family 👪 an enjoyable trip on board of flight 2016.....

💥✨💫💃🏃👫💑👯❤💖💌💍☔⛄🌊🌈🌁🌴🌹🌷🍀

Before the Flight 2015 ends,

Allow us to Thank All  our Amazing  Friends

Who Made 2015 Beautiful For us, 

We Pray that you all be Blessed With an Awesome Year Ahead.

😘😍💝🎁🎊🎉🎈

SWITCH ON OR OFF?

A Friend just shared with me, she falled out with a friend all because of a status she posted on facebook. Why do people get so upset with what one share? So what's wrong if one get emotion a bit? I think that is what makes us human. We have feelings , sometimes we just speaks what is in our hearts. Is that so wrong? Being human means we have feelings, sometimes we can be sad, we get upsets, and angry even. It's better to share out than to keep it inside as it will exploded one fine day .

Feeling for someone we care for is quite normal and especially if it is a friendship built over the years. One cannot just shut  it off like a switch. Wish it can be that simple then we don't have to go through the hurt and sadness. It will take time to heal, but  on and off the feeling will be there when ever we come across places, or things that remind us of the person.

So to those hurting out there. Be strong and leave it to fate if your path should cross again.

THE PLAN

It’s a new year,  a new 366 days to venture

I’ve been having difficulty to track my spending.So with a help from a good friend

Who was kind enough to sent me a excel expenditure template , I hope with this it will help me to manage my finance.

Looks like I need to cut down some expenses. I am looking at some of the things which have to go

1)Gym membership.  Looks like no more body combat and Body pump for me. It will be saying good byes to my sifus.

But I will still see one of them on my hikes(if she join) and wall climbing which she is very active now.

2)Photoshoot, good thing I have not been active in this area and I must learn to decline invitation.

3)Run- definitely cutting down a lot of these. Maybe one or two selective good ones?

4) sports attire. This should be easy since I will be giving up the gym activities.

5) Whey Protien

Well so looks like I have left two activities, hiking and wall climbing.

Ok that’s the plan.  I’m thankful I can at least enjoy the remaining two of my activities.

PROMISE

Today I make a promise

That I won’t be sad

That I won’t be miserable anymore

No more guilt trips, no more tears

I  have to reliase

I can’t change what has happen

Punishing myself will not change anything

Instead I must face the fact

Face the reality what is gone is gone

Try to be happy

Live for self instead of others
No  more negative thoughts. Think positively

Time is short and no one knows what tomorrow holds
Do what I love most

Cherish the sweet memories leave the bitter ones behind

Tomorrow  is another day.
Good days are ahead,
Take one step at a time, hope for the best

Ps:Note to self.Love yourself more

FOR THE GOOD TIMES.

This song does bring back Nostalgic feelings. The good old days. Very thankful for the good times.

Don't look so sad, I know it's over
But life goes on and this old world will keep on turning
Let's just be glad we had some time to spend together
There's no need to watch the bridges that we're burning

Lay your head upon my pillow
Hold your warm and tender body close to mine
Hear the whisper of the raindrops fallin' soft against the window
Make believe you love me one more time

For the good times, I'll get along, you'll find another
And I'll be here if you should find you ever need me
Don't say a word about tomorrow or forever
There'll be time enough for sadness when you leave me

As you lay your head upon my pillow
Hold your warm and tender body close to mine
Hear the whisper of the raindrops fallin' soft against the window
And make believe you love me one more time

SONGWRITERS
KRISTOFFERSON, KRISTOFFER

LITTLE GESTURE

It's the little gesture that speak volume. It may be a simple act, but it meant alot to me. Got this cup cakes from my sifu. It all started when she post it on her facebook and I commented keep some for me. Sure enough she kept some and gave it to me when I attended her body combat last night. I would have got it earlier, but due to the holidays, the club cancelled her class and we only manage to meet last night ,when I made a trip to the club at the mines.I have not been to this place for a few years now and rely totally on waze,which took me to the city before reaching this place. Accordingly to my sifu, she said it was a good thing, as I avoid the bad traffic there had I took the highway. Anyway I am thankful for her kindness and being such a thoughtful person. She is the most friendliest person I had ever met.Very down to earth person. So for 2015 I am thankful to have her as a friend and share many actitities and dinner, teatime with her. I hope we will continue to be good friends and definately looking forward to have more activities with her as I enjoyed her company tremendously.

NEW CHAPTER

Some quotes to encourage

A new customize calender to mark my activities 

ROCK CLIMBING

It's been quite a while since I climbed at this gym. Today i was suppose to drive down to johore to climb at the new  rock world gym but since my sifu fear of a long massive jam on the way back decided to postpone it to another day. 

So i arranged this improntu climb. So glad all of them could make it. Some of the route i could not complete in the past i did it with ease today. So I guess i must have made some progress since then. One newbie joined us gave her some briefing and crash course. Glad she enjoyed the climb. 

CHRISTMAS WEEKEND

A simple family dinner at home. Having steam boat half way through smell of something burning bon checking found out it was the extension wire which is of low grade. Have to custom made one of better spec. After diner we went to a nearby mall to support one of the family member's grand opening of his premium ice cream shop. First time trying this brand. Not bad. 

Christmas morning was in church with family.  A very nice message from pastor. One of the point he touched was we must be too hard on ourselves. We must learnt to forgives ourselves and also to laugh at ourselves. Lunch was provided after service. 

Evening we had dinner together at manhatan fish market. 

  

SAN ANDREAS

• Starring: Alexandra Daddario, Carla Gugino, Colton Haynes, Dwayne Johnson, Ioan Gruffudd, Kylie Minogue,Paul Giamatti
• Summary: After the infamous San Andreas Fault finally gives, triggering a magnitude 9 earthquake in California, a search and rescue helicopter pilot (Dwayne Johnson) and his estranged wife (Carla Gugino) make their way together from Los Angeles to San Francisco to save their only daughter (Alexandra Daddario). But their treacherous journey north is only the beginning. 

Finally I was able to watch this movie on my samsung tab. 

Story about a couple  going through a divoice and due to an earthquake they were some how reunited when they went looking for the daughter who was caught in the quake at San Francisco. 

Something so inevitabily shown in the film, the character of a person is revealed The selfishness of man who will only safe themselves. Then there are those who will take the opportunity to loot.

Overall a nice movie with a happy ending. I just love happy ending.

CANDLE IN THE NIGHT

Inspired by candle in the wind

Deep in the woods..
A lone candle flickering in the dark night
The cold wind blew,but you stood firm
Ever faithful shining your light
Then came the heavy rain

And Snuff out the light

Atlas no more light flickering 

In the dark, dark night

©johnnie 2015

SOME INSPIRING QUOTES

There are so many that encourage me, but these are some that I like and meaniful to me.

I  truely believe in this.

I think I'm guilty of this. How I wished I could undo this.

Note to self:  We made mistakes, but we can learnt from it.  We can't turn back time, but we should be more careful and tactful in future. 

I MISSED MY FRIEND

I have fond memories of my best friend Rc. We shared the same interest for comics, Maybe that was the reason we could click together. Funny we did not started off on the right foot. The first time I encounter him, he was like an angry boy. He thought I had touched his bag and wanted to beat me up, or was it just a show? I said nothing and just walk away. Well you would too if you have seen his size. As fate would have it, we met again,when we became classmate the following year. As time goes by we became best friends and when I shared with him the incident, we had a good laugh.
Our loved for comics never die and we even talk like crazy kids even when we became working adults, and even after we had our own families. In our teen years, both our mothers could not understand us. sometimes we could talk late into the night and my mum had to come and ask me to go home. Later it became our wives' job to do that. As I could only afford to buy a few titles of my favourite comics , Rc would lend me his. He  was quite a sucessful business man and could afford all his favourites titles.
Unfortunately my friend did not live long. He died on his 50th birthday. He would have been 61 this year had he lived. We would have much to talk about today, with all our super heroes making it to the big screen.  The last we went to the movie to watch our super hero was when superman staring christopher reeves hit the big screen. We had those on VHS tapes back then as part of our collection.today it would be DVD or even Blu ray CD. I bet he will have his home system and I could watch it at his home and talk silly stuffs till our spouses remind us of the time. Some of our favourite hereos that made the big screen:-
*Captain America
* Iron Man
*  Thor
* Superman
* Guardian of the galaxy
* Wonderwoman
* Black Panter
* Spiderman
* X-men
*Green lantern
* Flash(on tv)
*Fantastic Four
*Antman

Yes Rc would have love this era, and how I missed my best friend.

LAST RUN 2015

Today was suppose to be my final run for 2015 at cyber jaya. As I had another event in the afternoon at putrajaya challenge park I pack ready my gears and had plan to go there after my run as going home and then to make another trip there would be waste of petrol and time. Anyway had my alarm set the night before but I manage to get up even before the alarm goes of.was greeted with the sound of rain. So I was debating should I or should I not go. One part of me wanted to go so much as I was sure I would get to see someone but on the other hand it might not be a good idea as my presence might not be welcome. So I decided to stayed at home. Continued with my sleep. Did had a good sleep. Got up around 8.30am and watched the new fantastic four movie on my Samsung tab. I can't say I like the movie. I still preferred the old version of the story.  My daughter in law just prepared breakfast even though it's almost lunch time. Gotta grab some bite before I head to putrajaya for some rock climbing

The rock climbing went on fine,except with one little inciddent, when one guy knock against the wall and dislocate his shoulder, which was an old injury which he did not mention to the organiser.
other than that everyone had a good time and enjoyed the climb.

The race , I choose to stay away

BAD ENDING?

December does not seems to be kind to me. First I had a fall out with someone so dear to me. Then  the accounts people at DHL, did not up date their systems even though payment was settle months ago. So they block the system and I was not able to sent out a shipment. Then the water company cut of the water, because our accounts people forgot to make payment. So I had to go without my drink during tea time. Haiz. Then this morning I could not get into my office, because the lock could not be open. So I had to call my boss to update him and also to let him know I will be looking for a locksmith. When I reach the locksmith's shop my boss called to informed he manage to open the door. Oh boy, so embarassing. So he must be thinking this guy can't even open the door why do I need to keep him. There goes my bonus.. Can't believe it my car air cond deceide to go on strike.Hope it won't cost me a bomb , as my road tax and insurance is due next month. This is a bad timing.
Hopefully the remaining days of December there won't be any more problems. or surprises. Hopefully 2016 will be better .

HOW TO BUILT TRUST

Trust may be the most important factor in successful relationships.^[1] A person trusts another when they feel that they can be vulnerable and everything will be alright. You can build trust in your relationships if you are prepared to make the effort. Building trust requires making a commitment to trustworthy behavior.^[2]

Method 1 of 4: Being Reliable

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   Do what you say. One of the most important steps in building a foundation of trust is to do what you say you will do.^[3] Even if it is a small thing, canceling or failing to follow through will create hairline fractures in your trustworthiness.

   • Although the occasional failure to follow through may not seem like a big deal; repeated failures can add up. Over time, people in your life may come to see you as less trustworthy.
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   Honor your promises. Trust requires that people believe you will be dependable in the long-term.^[4] Thus, when you make someone a promise, you must keep it.

   • If you truly cannot keep a promise you've made, explain face-to-face why you cannot do as you said you would.
   • Especially if your promise was a major one, an explanation might not be enough. You may need to make a new promise to make it up to that person. Be sure to keep this new promise, no matter what!
   • Do not belittle the original promise. However small and insignificant a promise may seem, realize that the other person may place great significance on it. Any lack of follow through could be hugely disappointing.
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   Be consistent. An important part of the definition of reliability is following through with your word many times over an extended period. By definition, someone reliable is someone you can almost always count on.

   • Keep in mind that doing what you say only once or twice won’t build the solid foundation of trust in your relationships that you want.^[5]
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Method 2 of 4: Being Honest

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   Tell the truth as much as you can. There are some situations where telling the whole truth as you see it might not be the most ethical choice.^[6] It might not even be the best strategy for having trust in your relationships. That said, in most cases, honesty really is the best policy.

   • Perhaps the most important time to tell the truth is when you would benefit from a lie.^[7] If you can be truthful at your own expense, you show that your relationship with another person is important. You also show them that their well-being is more important than your own.^[8]
   • For example, imagine your friend loans you a book and you spill coffee on it. You could say that you lost the book. Or, you could try to find another copy and pretend nothing happened. But it is important to tell your friend what really happened. A damaged book may not be a big deal, but the risk of the truth emerging (or the risk of your friend perceiving the lie) will fracture trust.
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   If you do lie, admit to it. Sometimes it feels unavoidable to lie. Sometimes it happens without even thinking. If you do lie to someone, it is best to confess to your lie as soon as possible. Then, explain your motives and be sincere about your remorse.^[9]

   • If you get caught, don't deny it. That is simply another lie, and it will further erode trust.
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   Speak from the heart. When you feel like lying to someone, either to spare their feelings or to spare yourself from their unfavorable response, find an anchor point to focus on. Choose something good about that person and emphasize this in your communication.

   • Speak to that anchor of goodness, rather than overplaying the bad news you need to convey.
   • Be sure to offer your willingness to listen. It can be helpful to offer phrases like “It seems to me,” or “I believe that,” emphasizing that this is your perception of the truth.^[10] This shows you're open to other points of view, and can help preserve trusting relationships.
   • Here's an example: If you need to tell a friend that she has made a mistake, explain what went wrong in neutral and non-judgmental language. Focus on her strengths, her value to you as a friend and, if possible, how she can redeem the situation. Then ask for her side of the story and listen intently. But, don't tell her everything is fine if actually is not.
   • The conversation might go like this: "Beryl, I believe you made a significant mistake on our report. I can see that you’ve been under a lot of stress with this new project. I know the mistake doesn’t reflect your talent or abilities. But, I think we should tell the client immediately and offer them a new report."
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   Express your feelings. People who only convey hard facts come across as cold and distant. This does not encourage trust.

   • You may think it's easier to just regurgitate the facts as they happened, according to you. But, without a layer of compassion and understanding, people may think you are relishing another person's distress.
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Method 3 of 4: Being Open

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   Volunteer information. When an opportunity to be vague arises, consider whether it would be more accurate to provide more information. It's often a good idea to volunteer information to show that you aren't withholding information.^[11] Here's an example:

   • In a new one-on-one relationship, one partner might ask the other: "How was your day?" The response might be: "It was alright." This does not build trust, because you haven't shared any real information.
   • Now imagine another response to the question: “Well, I had a doctor’s appointment today. I thought it would be routine, but the doctor suspects that I might have a heart murmur. She said that she didn’t have any conclusive information, but she wants me to come in for more tests next week. I don’t know if I should be worried about this." This response suggests openness, and builds trust.
   • In this case, your new partner would be upset to not know about the doctor’s news, even though you aren’t certain of the results yet. Omission would hurt the closeness of the relationship. This is because you might be worrying about the test all week, but your partner wouldn’t know why you were anxious. He or she would also probably want to know in case there was anything they could do to help you.
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   Don't omit important details. The main reason it is best not to omit important details is because it is hard to stay consistent in what you share. People will start to notice contradictions in your stories, and you will lose credibility, even if you are only omitting a little.

   • If you really want to build trust, tell people things they need or want to know.
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   If you do have things that you are not yet willing to share, say so. You shouldn't have to to give up your most personal feelings and secrets just to build trust. Remember, everyone feels they have a right to control their personal information.^[12] The key to being trustworthy while also maintaining your privacy is to make your boundaries clear.

   • For example, you might tell someone: "I am not ready to share my feelings about that right now. But, I promise you have nothing to worry about." This gives your listener a chance to prove that he or she is understanding and patient. Most importantly, it also gives your listener a sense of security. It is a better choice than being vague or dishonest to avoid talking about something private.
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Method 4 of 4: Showing Your Integrity

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   Keep secrets told to you. Never tell someone's story if that person would not want it told. This is a betrayal of trust.^[13]

   • The tendency is to let things slip when you are under pressure, tired, or not thinking clearly. If this happens, own up to it quickly, and apologize. This way, the person won't find out from someone else that you have shared their private information. It also gives you a chance to help minimize any damage you may have caused.
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   Display loyalty. Loyalty refers to your willingness to protect others and be on their side. This applies both in their presence and, most importantly, in their absence.

   • Trust becomes solid when a person knows he or she has your loyalty. You can also build trust by putting the interest of another person or your relationship with that person ahead of your own.^[14]
   • For example, you can build trust with your co-worker by staying after work to help with a project, even if you will not get credit for the work.
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   Keep your feelings under control. You can gain the respect and admiration of others by managing your emotions. It is hard to trust someone who's emotions are unpredictable or volatile.

   • A study of Fortune 500 executives found that those who regulated and appropriately expressed emotions were more likely to gain trust than those who did not.^[15]
   • For example, try not to blow up at people when they make small mistakes. This will diminish their trust in you.
   • If you feel overwhelmed by emotion, be aware of signals you are sending. Try to diminish those signals. Unclench your fists, relax your jaw, and release tension in your muscles.
   • Focusing on your breathing can help you manage your emotions. Try to focus your attention on the feeling of your breath. You don’t need to think about the breath or try to change it, just experience the sensation. If you notice yourself getting distracted, gently redirect your thoughts back to your breathing.^[16]
   • If you learn to manage your emotions, the people in your life will feel that they can predict how you will act. They will view you as emotionally reliable, further deepening trust.
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   Avoid abusive behavior. Some behaviors will seriously erode trust and should be avoided. The following actions will undermine trust:^[17]

   • Humiliating or degrading your partner
   • Isolating yourself from others
   • Threatening others or physically hurting others
   • Completely avoid abusive behaviors. If you make the mistake of mistreating others in one of these ways, immediately apologize. Promise to do better, and honor that promise over time.
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   Use assertive communication. Instead of engaging in abusive or aggressive behavior, try to adopt an assertive communication style. /b>This means directly and respectfully expressing your needs while also addressing the needs and opinions of others.^[18]

   • Assertive communication involves saying "no" when you don’t want to do something, and also involves managing your emotions.^[19]
   • It means sharing your feelings and opinions openly and in a way that does not belittle or bully.
   • For example, imagine your neighbor is playing music too loudly. An aggressive approach would be to go over to his house and yell: "Turn that racket down or I'm calling the cops, jerk!" An assertive approach would be to knock on his door and calmly say: "Hey, it's getting late, and I need to go to bed soon. Would you please turn your music down a bit?" This lets your neighbor know he's causing a problem without being insulting or threatening.
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   Commit to altering your behavior when appropriate. If you deceive someone or otherwise break trust, make a promise to change your behavior in the future and commit to doing so. Remember, you must honor this promise consistently over time to regain trust.

   • A promise alone with only restore trust in the short-term.^[20]
   • An apology itself does not have any effect on long-term trust.

   Original article link here

my comments: A very helpful and good read. we hear of the saying I would trust someone with our lives. Now do we really mean that? Is there such a person who is willing to do that? I suppose we trust people only to a certain extent. Even the one whom we care most might not have our 100% trust and vice versa.