Friday, December 31, 2010

2011 is knocking at the door.

It's new year eve. Some people are enjoying a 'bonus" holiday which was declared by our Prime Minister. Everytime our malaysian team wins a tournament after many  many failed attempt  you can be sure the next day will be declared a public holiday. Anyway just to wish everyone a happy holiday and a Happy new year.
with one more day we will be saying goodbye to 2010 and ursher in a new year. This will be the time people will make resolution, take stock of their lives, make plans for next year for some. Well before you cry an ocean and start to lament on the things you could have done, why not give thanks for the things you  have done. What is gone and done cannot be undone. Learnt from the failures and prepared yourself for the next year to do better.
As for me, I am thankful I could try some of the things I had not done before this year. like new sports, adventures and going to places I had never tried before and even take on  new jobs(after my retirement) which are totally new to me .My  current job takes me far away from my family and in a new environment.
Oh yes I made some new friends and I really appreciate their friendship. Thanks for being my friends.
so 2010 was quite a good year for me and looking forward eagerly to the new year .




Saturday, December 25, 2010

The Real Meaning of Christmas

Got this in the mail a while ago . Just like to share and hope you will be blessed by it too.


My friends, Christmas for most of us is a time of celebration, food and those exciting presents from loved ones. Most of us know that it is not the actual date of Jesus's birthday as the shepherds tending the sheep in the open meant that it  was summer at that time. December is winter in Israel. The celebration of Christmas is very much related to St. Nicholas, a very good man living where is currently Turkey is and the spirit behind the celebration is about giving not exchanging of gifts. It is a time Christians must go to people in need and give them something or offer some kind of help... the ophans, the widows, the homeless, the old, the needy and lonely. Could we invite someone from the old folks home to join in our celebration, provide gifts to families who has never open a Christmas present before, give a scholarship to a poor student who excel? This is the spirit of Christmas. And if we Christians were to do that every Christmas we bring the light of God to light up the lives of others.

 
This is what a country Christmas is all about...


"Pa never had much compassion for the lazy or those who squandered their means and then never had enough for the necessities.  But for those who were genuinely in need, his heart was as big as all outdoors.  It was from him that I learned the greatest joy in life comes from giving, not from receiving.

It was Christmas Eve.  I was fifteen years old and feeling like the world had caved in on me because there just hadn't been enough money to buy me the rifle that I'd wanted for Christmas.  We did the chores early that night for some reason.  I just figured Pa wanted a little extra time so we could read in the Bible.

After supper was over I took my boots off and stretched out in front of the fireplace and waited for Pa to get down the old Bible.  I was still feeling sorry for myself and, to be honest, I wasn't in much of a mood to read Scriptures.
 But Pa didn't get the Bible, instead he bundled up again and went outside.  I couldn't figure it out because we had already done all the chores.  I didn't worry about it long though, I was too busy wallowing in self-pity.   Soon Pa came back in.  It was a cold clear night out and there was ice in his beard. "Come on, Matt," he said. "Bundle up good, it's cold out tonight."  I was really upset then.  Not only wasn't I getting the rifle for Christmas, now Pa was dragging me out in the cold, and for no earthly reason that I could see.  We'd already done all the chores, and I couldn't think of anything else that needed doing, especially not on a night like this.  But I knew Pa was not very patient at one dragging one's feet when he'd told them to do something, so I got up and put my boots back on and got my cap, coat, and mittens.  Ma gave me a mysterious smile as I opened the door to leave the house.  Something was up, but I didn't know what.

Outside, I became even more dismayed.
 There in front of the house was the work team, already hitched to the big sled.  Whatever it was we were going to do wasn't going to be a short, quick, little job.  I could tell.  We never hitched up this sled unless we were going to haul a big load.  Pa was already up on the seat, reins in hand.  I reluctantly climbed up beside him.  The cold was already biting at me.  I wasn't happy.  When I was on, Pa pulled the sled around the house and stopped in front of the woodshed.  He got off and I followed.  "I think we'll put on the high sideboards," he said.  "Here, help me."  The high sideboards!  It had been a bigger job than I wanted to do with just the low sideboards on, but whatever it was we were going to do would be a lot bigger with the high side boards on.

After we had exchanged the sideboards, Pa went into the woodshed and came out with an armload of wood - the wood I'd spent all summer hauling down from the mountain, and then all fall sawing into blocks and splitting.
 What was he doing?  Finally I said something.  "Pa," I asked, "what are you doing?"   "You been by the Widow Jensen's lately?" he asked.  The Widow Jensen lived about two miles down the road.  Her husband had died a year or so before and left her with three children, the oldest being eight.  Sure, I'd been by, but so what?

Yeah," I said, "Why?"

"I rode by just today," Pa said.
 "Little Jakey was out digging around in the woodpile trying to find a few chips.  They're out of wood, Matt."   That was all he said and then he turned and went back into the woodshed for another armload of wood.  I followed him.  We loaded the sled so high that I began to wonder if the horses would be able to pull it.  Finally, Pa called a halt to our loading, then we went to the smoke house and Pa took down a big ham and a side of bacon.  He handed them to me and told me to put them in the sled and wait.  When he returned he was carrying a sack of flour over his right shoulder and a smaller sack of something in his left hand.   "What's in the little sack?" I asked.     "Shoes, they're out of shoes.  Little Jakey just had gunny sacks wrapped around his feet when he was out in the woodpile this morning.  I got the children a little candy too.  It just wouldn't be Christmas without a  little candy."

We rode the two miles to Widow Jensen's pretty much in silence.  I tried to think through what Pa was doing.  We didn't have much by worldly standards.  Of course, we did have a big woodpile, though most of what was left now was still in the form of logs that I would have to saw into blocks and split before we could use it.  We also had meat and flour, so we could spare that,
but I knew we didn't have any money, so why was Pa buying them shoes and candy?  Really, why was he doing any of this?  Widow Jensen had closer neighbors than us; it shouldn't have been our concern.

We came in from the blind side of the Jensen house and unloaded the wood as quietly as possible, then we took the meat and flour and shoes to the door.  We knocked.  The door opened a crack and a timid  voice said,  "Who is it?"

"Lucas Miles, Ma'am, and my son, Matt, could we come in for a bit?"
Widow Jensen opened the door and let us in.  She had a blanket wrapped around her shoulders.  The children were wrapped in another and were sitting in front of the fireplace by a very small fire that hardly gave off any heat at all.  Widow Jensen fumbled with a match and finally lit the lamp.

"We brought you a few things, Ma'am," Pa said and set down the sack of flour.  I put the meat on the table.  Then Pa handed her the sack that had the shoes in it.  She opened it hesitantly and took the  shoes out one pair at a time.  There was a pair for her and one for each of the children -
sturdy shoes, the best, shoes that would last.  I watched her carefully.  She bit her lower lip to keep it from trembling and then tears filled her eyes and started running down her cheeks.  She looked up at Pa like she wanted to say something, but it wouldn't come out.

"We brought a load of wood too, Ma'am," Pa said.  He turned to me and said, "Matt, go bring in enough to last awhile.  Let's get that fire up to size and heat this place up."
  I wasn't the same person when I went back out to bring in the wood.  I had a big lump in my throat and as much as I hate to admit it, there were tears in my eyes too.  In my mind I kept seeing those three kids huddled around the fireplace and their mother standing there with tears running down her cheeks with so much gratitude in her heart that she couldn't speak.  My heart swelled within me and a joy that I'd never known before filled my soul.  I had given at Christmas many times before, but never when it had made so much difference.  I could see we were literally saving the lives of these people.

I soon had the fire blazing and everyone's spirits soared.  The kids started giggling when Pa handed them each a piece of candy and Widow Jensen looked on with a smile that probably hadn't crossed her face  for a long time.  She finally turned to us. "God bless you," she said. "I know the Lord has sent you.  The children and I have been praying that he would send one of his
angels to spare us."

In spite of myself, the lump returned to my throat and the tears welled up in my eyes again.  I'd never thought of Pa in those exact terms before, but after Widow Jensen mentioned it I could see that it was probably true.  I was sure that a better man than Pa had never walked the earth.  I started remembering all the times he had gone out of his way for Ma and me, and many others.  The list seemed endless as I thought on it.

Pa insisted that everyone try on the shoes before we left.  I was amazed when they all fit and I wondered how he had known what sizes to get.  Then I guessed that if he was on an errand for the Lord that the Lord would make sure he got the right sizes.

Tears were running down Widow Jensen's face again when we stood up to leave.  Pa took each of the kids in his big arms and gave them a hug.  They clung to him and didn't want us to go.  I could see that they missed their Pa, and I was glad that I still had mine.

At the door Pa turned to Widow Jensen and said, "The Mrs. wanted me to invite you and the children over for Christmas dinner tomorrow.  The turkey will be more than the three of us can eat, and a man can get cantankerous if he has to eat turkey for too many meals.  We'll be by to get you about eleven.  It'll be nice to have some little ones around again.  Matt, here, hasn't been little for quite a spell."  I was the youngest.  My two brothers and two sisters  had all married and had moved away.

Widow Jensen nodded and said, "Thank you, Brother Miles.  I don't have to say, may the Lord bless you; I know for certain that He will."

Out on the sled I felt a warmth that came from deep within and I didn't even notice the cold.  When we had gone a ways, Pa turned to me and said, "Matt, I want you to know something.  Your ma and me have  been tucking a little money away here and there all year so we could buy that rifle for you, but we didn't have quite enough. Then yesterday a man who owed me a little money from years back came by to make things square.  Your ma and me were real excited,  thinking that now we could get you that rifle, and I started into town this morning to do just that, but on the way I saw little Jakey out scratching in the woodpile with his feet wrapped in those gunny sacks and I knew what I had to do.  Son, I spent the money for shoes and a little candy for those children.
 I hope you understand."

I understood and my eyes became wet with tears again.  I understood very well and I was so glad Pa had done it.  Now the rifle seemed very low on my list of priorities.  Pa had given me a lot more.  He had given me the look on Widow Jensen's face and the radiant smiles of her three children.

For the rest of my life, whenever I saw any of the Jensens, or split a block of wood, I remembered, and remembering brought back that same joy I felt riding home beside Pa that night.
 Pa had given me much  more than a rifle that night, he had given me the best Christmas of my life."





CHRISTMAS AWAY FROM HOME

Merry Christmas Everyone.
This year I am away all alone. My son who just got married is still on honey moon and will only return to work tomorrow. I will have to pick him up from the airport tomorrow. In the meantime it's just lonely me in my room facing the four walls.  This is the first time I am having christmas away from home and also missing church service. I am away from home due to work , I am now located at Kulai, a small town in Johore.I was suppose to meet a friend at scudai for a christmas service and since he did not confirm and I dont know the way there and so I deceived to go to a nearby church at kulai,which I had earlier make contact and been there once. However when I got there I saw the door was already shut and since I am new I do not want to walk into a service late, so I went to another church just a few walking distance down the road. The meeting was over, so I just went to make some enquries on their meetings.I was given their newsletter and introduced to some of their elders and pastor. This is something I came across in their newsletter. This will suffice for my christmas message this year ,since I missed my christmas message this year. Hope you will be blessed.


When Jesus came the first time, He came as a babe wrapped in swadding clothes.
when He comes again, He will be dressed in the vestments of victory
He came the first time to be crucified
He will come again to be glorified
He came the first time with a baby's cry
when He comes again it will be with the roar of the tribes of Judah
He first coming was known only to a few shepherds,a handful of wisemen, and a few residents of Bethlehem
When He comes again, it will be as lightening flashing from the east to the west, He  will come in the clouds of glory, and all the universerse will hear the news.


Have a blessed Christmas Everyone.


in the meantime, this song  will express how I feel not being with my loved ones during christmas

Thursday, December 23, 2010

She would not let me in

I had breakfast just the other day with one of my favourite person.  While senting her back I just had an urge to go to the toilet and when I reached her home, she refuse to let me use her toilet. Her reason was the house was in a mess, and she had not clean up yet?  Is that a valid reason?  Have you ever encounter such occasion?    Now I am staying  in another town with my son due to our work.It is provided by the company and I only clean up once a week. After a tiring work, cleaning up is the last thing on my mind . Well if someone is coming over I have no problem with that even if the house is messy.I will not be shy or feel uneasy if a visitor wants to come over.  Is it just with girls or guys rected like that as well??




Monday, December 20, 2010

Excuses or just being Lame??

Finally after months of preparation and waiting for the day to arrive, I am quite relieve it is over. I am talking about the wedding preparation and the dinner of my eldest son.  Never reliase there is so much preparation to be done and we would not be able to do it without the help of so many kind souls do assist us. Thank God, it did not put a big dent in our pockets as well. It was a good dinner and it went quite smoothly and I am so grateful for friends and relatives who had taken time off to attend the dinner.  Now I had time to reflect and think  what had transpire over the last few days. Perhaps it is time to evaluated some of the friendship. Despite invitation and enough notices were sent out very much earlier than the dinner date, not many bother about the rsvp part and some of the excuses I got for both the bachelor nite and the wedding dinner were not too convincing.
one response I got was I do not know your son. Since when do we need to know the couple when attending such function.As if knowing the person who invited you is not good enough reason??
Another one only told me he has to be at another friend's pre wedding shoot when I call to ask. what happen if I dont call at all , I will never know.Some were not feeling well. A courtesy call would have been appreciated. Another one was due to a flight delays and could not come back.A valid reason,but if proper planing this could have been avoided. I am not passing judgement just to express my disappointment. I remember when ever I had an appointement or invitation, I will ensure I do not enggage in other activities and if I do have on the same date or on the eve, I will ensure the activity will not tired me  lest I will not be able to make it on the day of the function. Also I will ensure it will be nearby so that I could not be delayed. However I am also happy to note some of my friends and that of my wife's took the trouble to attend the dinner even though they lived in far away(some from another country). One of my friend flew back from singapore after celebrating his mothers birthday in singapore. He left his wife in singapore to accompany the mother. such thoughtful persons.It is occasion like this we know who really value our friendship and who doe not.